The Parent Question

We all have a mother and a father – and that’s who they are to us, our mother and father. So, when we’re forced to look at them as people, often flawed people, there are usually things about them we must…reckon with.

I’ve done a lot of reckoning over the years about my parents, mostly in an effort to find reasons why they did what they did, made the choices they made, and behaved as they behaved – and about how all of that went into who I am as a person.  

All that thinking about my parents finally lead me to place of understanding, sympathy and ultimately forgiveness.  

This story about my parents puts into words many of my thoughts from the past few decades. It’s incredibly personal, but I think elements of it are universal. I hope you take away from it thoughts of your own parents, and how they helped shape you and your life.

2 comments on “The Parent Question

  1. Ralph G Bullis says:

    I also came from a dysfunctional family. Mother was a weak minded alcoholic. Father was an ignorant, cruel bigot. The only chance we children had was for mother to wholeheartedly attack father. She needed to legally compel father to get lost and provide financial assistance. Of course that didn’t happen. “A women of her times”doesn’t work for me. She was a spinless excuse for a mother. Forgiveness doesn’t work either. I’m currently writing screen plays and producing a movie concerning women that are empowered in the crucible of the Alaska Wilderness. Hopefully my movies will inspire some women to take their inherent strength to heart. In the world of my stories women are re-defined.

    1. Mojo says:

      I’m sorry about your childhood struggles, Ralph. I hope you find forgiveness in your heart at some point – we all function in every moment the best we know how to do. The shortcomings of your parents reflect their personal limitations, sadly. I wish you luck with your screenplay and am intrigued by how you would “re-define” women. All the best, Mojo.

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